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How Nicole Kidman and Keith Urban have made their romance work over 15 years of dedicated marriage

From meeting, to rehab, welcoming kids and more...
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She’s the internationally acclaimed, award winning actor. He’s the internationally acclaimed, award winning country music legend.

And together, these two Aussies form one of Tinseltown’s most down to earth, relatable celebrity couples.

Nicole Kidman and Keith Urban’s love story is enviable for not only it’s longevity, but for the romance and friendship that helped it begin in 2005.

It was a whirlwind romance, and it hit some hurdles pretty early in the game, but theirs is a love that has endured and fascinated.

Since tying the knot at St Patrick’s Estate in Sydney’s iconic Manly in June, 2006, the couple have welcomed two daughters, Sunday Rose and Faith Margaret.

But there is so much more to know about this Hollywood power couple… let’s dive in!

Nicole and Keith first tied the knot on June 25, 2006.

(Image: Instagram @nicolekidman)

The earth didn’t shake when Nicole Kidman and Keith Urban met

It was a chance meeting the G’Day USA Gala in January 2005 that saw world’s collide for these two Aussie expats.

But was it love at first sight? According to Kidman it was more of a slow burn.

In a 2007 Vanity Fair interview, the Big Little Lies star confessed, “It wasn’t like the earth shook.”

And that may have something to do with the fact that it took Urban four months to actually get around to asking Kidman out on a date.

In a 2013 Ellen DeGeneres interview, Kidman explained: “I’m like, ‘You didn’t love me at first sight, you didn’t notice me,’ and he’s like, ‘Yes I did but I just didn’t let on’,” she laughed.

“But we kind of met and then about four months later he called me.”

WATCH: Keith Urban on the moment he met Nicole Kidman. Continues after video …

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More recently, Nicole revealed to Jimmy Fallon how Keith managed to win her over with a surprise visit to her apartment in the early days of their relationship.

It was the morning of June 20, 2005 – the day of her 38th birthday – and Keith turned up at the crack of dawn to sweep her off her feet.

“He sat on the stoop of my New York apartment, I came out – it was 5am in the morning and it was my birthday – and he had flowers,” Nicole recalled.

“And that was it. I was a goner. I’m like, ‘Yes I’ll marry you’.”

It’s unclear if Keith proposed that morning or if Nicole simply decided he was ‘The One’, but either way the story has us swooning.

“Our very first photo together 2005, minutes after being introduced to each other.”

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Their only regret is that their paths didn’t cross sooner.

“I wish I could have met him much earlier and had way more children with him, but I didn’t.

“I mean, if I could have had two more children with him that would have been just glorious,” Nicole told Vogue in 2017.

And the sentiment is echoed by The Voice judge, who describes the actress as “an amazing wife and mother” who also doubles as his “best friend”.

Call it timing, or kismet, or coincidence … but while they might have wished to meet earlier, both Urban and Kidman are firm believers in the fact that they crossed each other’s paths at exactly the right time.

Nicole Kidman and Keith Urban met in 2005 and wed in 2006.

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“I think we were two lonely people,” said Kidman in a Vanity Fair interview.

“I would probably say that two very lonely people managed to meet at a time when they could open themselves to each other. We were a mixture of frightened and brave.”

For Urban, who agrees that the timing was great, something more was at play.

“I feel there was something else at work … bringing us together and then just continuing to watch over us,” the Somebody Like You crooner told People.

The couple, pictured her at the 2019 Australian Open, fell fast and hard for each other.

(Image: Getty Images)

When you know, you know

It might have been a slow start, but once the ball got rolling, it really rolled.

The pair wed on the 25th of June, 2006, which for some might seem like a whirlwind, but for Kidman it seemed the natural order of things.

“I’m spontaneous,” she said in a 2014 interview with Elle magazine.

“I jump in. I kind of like getting married and then getting to know each other. I know that it sounds incredibly strange, but to me, it’s a more natural process.”

For this pair, jumping in seemed to work, but in truth the beginning of their marriage did face one pretty major hurdle.

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A honeymoon rehab

Urban’s struggles with substance abuse were something that Kidman was not prepared to bear witness to, and just four months into their marriage she called an intervention.

While Urban had done some rehab stints prior to this, he credits his relationship with his Oscar award-winning wife for being the difference this time.

Speaking with Rolling Stone in 2014, he confessed: “I was very, very blessed to have [Kidman] call an intervention on me, I had a tight group of friends around me for the intervention. And off I went.”

“Meeting [Kidman] and falling in love with [her] and starting a relationship with [her] became — I realise now in hindsight — my sobriety,” Urban added.

WATCH: Nicole Kidman and Keith Urban’s cutest ever moments. Continues after video …

With overcoming such a huge hurdle at the beginning of their marriage, it perhaps comes as no surprise that Urban and Kidman are prepared to put the hard yards in when it comes to making their partnership work.

Incredibly open and honest about the ups and downs of their marriage, theirs is a refreshingly candid take on a Hollywood relationship, making them on of the most relatable couples in Hollywood.

“Someone said one time, ‘If your marriage isn’t your priority, you’re not married,’ and I thought, for me that’s so true,” Urban confessed during a Country Radio Seminar Q&A session.

“So as long as I keep her as a priority, everything else sort of seems to work. And when I don’t keep it as a priority, it’s… Jenga.”

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“That was how I was able to keep it together… I didn’t give a s**t about anything except turning a corner in my life and doing whatever it took for that.”

In a separate interview with People, Urban recalls that time as being “very, very hard” on his new wife, but essential for him to do if he wasn’t going to “lose it all.”

“It was like, ‘If I don’t choose this moment to do the right thing and do something that’s going to give me life, all of the things I’m scared of losing, I’m going to lose anyway.'”

Sharing a life and love with someone in recovery is something that Kidman needed to learn to navigate.

Speaking with Vanity Fair in 2013, she spoke about the darkness of those days so early in her marriage.

“We just love being together, more than anything. We’re just like best friends.”

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“I’ve learned an enormous amount having a relationship with someone who is in recovery,” she pondered.

“I’m more than willing to walk it with him. The two of us are very committed to our relationship.

“It was just another twist in my life: Here it goes. Hold on, and off we go! But it was painful, deeply painful.

“We were in a very, very, very bad, painful place, and have managed to step through it, and I hope that gives some people some hope who may be in the same place.”

Nicole Kidman and Keith Urban work hard at their marriage

“We go, ‘Oh gosh, I wonder if we met when we were 25, then we could have had 10 of them!” she said.

“But Keith says, ‘Stop the wanting mind,'” she continued. “It’s far better to be completely in love and satiated with what you’ve been given, what we’ve been given.”

Though it seems unlikely that the pair will be welcoming any more children, they’re very protective of the two they do have.

Nicole and Keith are among a growing crowd of celebrity parents who choose not to show their children’s faces on social media.

Forever looking like love-struck teenagers, Nicole Kidman and Keith Urban sure know how to embrace the romantic side of things.

(Image: Instagram)

During the COVID pandemic, the pair had plenty of time to spend together, which often kept them locked down in Australia.

Fortunately, Nicole and Keith seemed to make the most of the break from their busy schedules – Nicole on film sets and Keith on tour.

They appeared more loved-up than ever as they marked their wedding anniversary in 2021, with Nicole posting a racy snap to Instagram.

“Happy Anniversary baby! 💋💋💋” she captioned it, while Keith opted for a more low-key post.

The country rocker shared a photo of him and Nicole at home sharing a cuddle in matching pyjamas under a Christmas tree.

“Happy anniversary babygirl !!!!!!! my life started when you said ‘I do’ 5475 days ago today ♥️♥️🌹🌹” he wrote alongside the adorable snap.

And as Nicole celebrated her 55th birthday in June 2022, Keith was quick to honour the love of his life, sharing an old photo from the 2019 Australian Open (as seen above) along with the caption: “Happy birthday babygirl. xxxx.”

Keith looked at Nicole with adoration at the 2022 Academy Awards.

(Image: Getty)

On having more children

Kidman has two adult children, Isabella, 29, and Connor, 27, with ex-husband Tom Cruise.

After wedding Urban, she had, daughter, Sunday Rose biologically and they welcomed their second daughter Faith Margaret by surrogate.

And while Kidman feels completely at peace with the two children their union created, she has confessed to dreaming of more children with Urban.

Speaking with People, Kidman admitted she would have happily had an even larger family with the country music star.

Kidman has admitted that she would have happily had an even larger family with Urban. (Image: Getty Images)

However, in a recent exclusive interview with Australian Women’s Weekly to promote the actor’s movie Being the Ricardos, she stated she is happy with her two girls and has enough children in her life to share her maternal energy.

“Would I have loved to have had more kids? Sure. I love kids. I’ve got a lot of nieces and nephews. I have a lot of godchildren. I’m happy to put some of that maternal energy into other people. I don’t need to [adopt more].

“Be happy with what you have. I’m extremely focused on raising a 10- going-on-11-year-old and a 13-year-old right now. I’m very, very grateful to have them.”

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